Well, I beg to differ.  While it is true that our soul expands or grows through learning, it is equally true that in the face of a painful experience we tend to become weaker.  This is particularly noticeable when we have experienced multiple traumatic events in a fairly short amount of time.

When we experience pain, whether emotional, mental or physical the tendency is to shove it because it is too intense for us to digest in the moment.  Our soul cannot learn from an undigested piece of experience, much like our body cannot get the nutrients from an undigested piece of cauliflower.  You may have heard someone say “he or she never learns”.   It’s because in order for our soul to learn from our experience the pain has to be healed first.  Thus spiritual healing is a form of a digestion process, if you will.   As such the unhealed painful experience becomes our unfinished business or affectionately also known as our “baggage”.  It actually does weigh us down.  …and we do actually carry it around with us.  In point many people express feeling lighter after a healing session.

Just like our soul can expand and become bigger, it also can contract and become smaller resulting from unhealed pain because a piece of our soul is wrapped up in the painful experience.  Sometimes we can even disconnect from pieces of our soul entirely.  Although it aids our survival, in the case of severe pain, the experiencing of different traumas can scatter our soul.  The more disconnected we are, the less soul we have to work with and the weaker we become.   Sometimes one can witness this with people who have gone through a number of tragedies or who have experienced a severely painful accident.  I’m sure you have heard people say such things as “he or she has never been the same since.”

So, what doesn’t kill you can actually make you a lot weaker…  but you can regain the integrity of your soul through spiritual healing.  Pain can be transformed to wisdom so that your soul may learn from your experience.  You can reconnect with your lost soul pieces and you can become more rather than less of who you are.

                                                    – by Dagmar Oktabcova