Category Archives: Relationships

Healing The Heart

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Most all of us have experienced heart break or loss.  Sometimes the pain can take us to our knees.  I experienced my share of it.  I remember the first time my Twin Flame left me, I felt like someone had stuck a dagger into my chest followed by ten trucks running over me.  I was literally physically ill and hurting from the deep pain in my heart.

What most of us don’t realize is that beneath every heart-break are buried many others that we haven’t full digested, some may have even originated in other lifetimes.  Like cumulative interest, all the unresolved heart breaks and losses will add intensity to our current and most recent loss.  Thus it can make our current loss unbearable.   The good news is that the heart can be healed.

Ignoring your pain may eventually lead to actual physical heart problems.  Spirit has a way of getting your attention.  Don’t let it get that far.

Here is a recent client’s testimonial about healing her heart:

During my first healing session with Dagmar, I could barely speak without crying.  In fact, I had been sobbing uncontrollably in front of friends and neighbors and therapeutic counselors with no signs of recovery.  My grief at being estranged from my only child and grandchild was overwhelming and I couldn’t imagine moving forward in my life.  After my first healing session with Dagmar I knew there was hope for the future and I felt a peace that had eluded me for countless months.  Six months later, after just four more sessions with Dagmar, the healing of my heart is nothing short of miraculous.  Dagmar has literally led me on a path that saved my life.  She has helped me heal both old and new spiritual and psychological wounds.  After months of living with worry and panic and finding restful sleep almost impossible, I am now finding joy, purpose, peace and hope in my everyday life.  Dagmar has a gift of healing that she shares with ease, generosity and humility.  Without being religious, she is a ‘Godsend’ and I will be forever grateful that our paths have crossed. 

Barbara,  May 2016

Are You Noticing The Increasing Turmoil In People’s Lives?

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Has your life been recently turned upside down?  Or perhaps you know someone whose life has been suddenly filled with such drama, it seems surreal?

I’ve seen people who have had decent lives suddenly lose their jobs and go homeless, or get stuck in between homes, lose everything they own, lose their children, or their long term relationships fall apart, or they suddenly are dealing with unexplained physical ailments.  I’ve seen people with a lot of indigestion and stomach issues, sudden unexplained aches and pains and autoimmune disorders.   Globally, we can also witness turmoil, for example the refugees from Syria crisis.

I, myself, have been dealing with some interesting and quite surreal drama in my family too.  As a spiritual healer, I am not immune to the spiritual shift we are undergoing.  However, I do find comfort in understanding what is happening and why, and it definitely helps having tools with which I can ease my life.

I don’t know if perhaps you might have noticed how some of the old ways of doing things are no longer working, like going to the doctor to resolve your ailments.  As part of the spiritual shift we are being more and more prompted to go within and look for resolution within ourselves.  The big push is to resolve our old karma.  This will ultimately help us move into the higher dimensions.

We are moving from the 3rd dimension of dualism (good and evil), where we have been primarily learning through the experiencing of pain, to the 5th dimension of love and oneness, where no pain exists, as is my understanding.  It makes sense.  After all, the 5th dimension is much higher in vibration and pain is a low vibration energy.  In order to accomplish this shift, the vibrations on our planet have been increasing gradually, allowing us to make the necessary adjustments.  It is this continuous increase in vibration, however, that is having a sort of flush out effect on our old unresolved pain, also referred to as our karma.   This flushing out of our old karma is manifesting itself in our daily drama, which is nothing more than the recreation of our old trauma.  In other words, we are re-living our old karma in hopes that by confronting it, we will resolve it within ourselves.  And I’m not just talking from this lifetime, but also from past lifetimes.

We have this amazing ability to disconnect from our pain.  This, incidentally, is how we create incomplete experiences we then carry around with us on our soul for sometimes many lifetimes.  Now, more than ever before, we are supported to resolve our incomplete experiences, or our karma.  We must, in order to move up in vibration.  Think, the old pain is like carrying around sacks of potatoes, heavy.  Thus in our daily situations we are being more forcefully confronted with our past pain and the issues we have yet to resolve.

So, if you find yourself experiencing extreme tiredness, fear, stress, or worry, or you find yourself in some surreal situation or with sudden physical ailments, know this: whatever discomfort you are experiencing right now, it is about resolving your karma!  Understanding this always brought me peace of mind, because I knew if I could resolve the issue energetically within myself, the situation I was facing would resolve itself.  Got to try this.  It’s like magic.

The huge comfort is in knowing that you don’t have to keep re-living your old pain.  You have a choice.  You can get some help from someone who understands spiritual healing and how to help your soul reconcile your past, especially if you yourself don’t know what you are doing.

Know that trying to resolve your karma by re-living it may take days, weeks, months, years or even lifetimes, where you may resolve your past in a matter of hours with the help of a spiritual healer.

But beware.  Not all healers are alike.  Do your research and ask your spirit for guidance to the right person who can help you in your highest good.

….and let’s move into living with ease, grace and joy!

Namaste

Healing Betrayal

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Betrayal can be very painful to live with.  Unfortunately, betrayal is something we draw in because of unresolved past betrayals.  If you are tired of being betrayed, you must heal the unresolved betrayals in your past.

Here is what one client had to say about her experience with spiritual healing and betrayal.

After our last session, I feel lighter and clearer than I EVER have.  We cleared two of three past life betrayals.  One betrayal was especially troubling and I feel that it caused the biggest breakthrough.  All of my life, I have felt that men will not respect me and that they only want to take advantage of me.  I have manifested this in every relationship, especially with male superiors at work.  I have lived my entire life dealing with betrayal after betrayal.  Since the last session with Dagmar I have renewed hope for my future.  I have hope that I am capable of finding true love and that I can finally gain the respect of my male superiors.

Thank you, Dena                

Does Your Significant Other Not Appreciate You?

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Do you work hard at being a good husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend?

You take care of the kids.  You cook.  You bring her flowers.  You go with him to his favorite game.  You help him clean out his shed.  You help her in the kitchen by doing the dishes.  You bring home the bacon.  You fulfill his sexual fantasies.  You do his laundry.  … etc, etc.

….and yet he or she just does not appreciate you!

Well, this is probably not going to change, if you keep doing what you’re doing.

So many of us are looking to have our bucket filled by the other person, particularly our loved one.   Yet, the truth of the matter is that no one can fill our bucket besides ourselves.   All your partner does is mirror to you your empty bucket.

So, if you are feeling unappreciated, then let’s work together and figure out where you’ve sustained a hole in your appreciation bucket, patch it up and fill you back up with appreciation.

You’ll be amazed at how quickly your partner will appreciate you!

 Call for your appointment today!

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Are You Attracting Men Who Don’t Love You?

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Do you desire to be loved, and yet the men you are connecting with do not love you?

Do you find yourself working hard at loving them and yet your love is not being reciprocated?

Believe it or not, this may be because deep down you actually believe that you CANNOT, SHOULD NOT, OR DON’T DESERVE to be loved.

You are deliberately, for some reason, denying yourself the ability to be loved.Relationship

I want to work with you to uncover and isolate WHY you are living this pattern.

If you want to attract love into your life, call me for an appointment today!

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Improving Relationships as a Benefit of Spiritual Healing

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Intimate relationships can be the most wonderful and the most painful of experiences.  Love can make us feel like we are walking on cloud nine or it can make us feel like someone stuck a dagger into our hearts and ten trucks ran over us.  How do I know?  …well, I have experienced it.  I think it’s because our significant other most closely hits home with who we are and where our pain is.  Relationships mirror to us how we treat ourselves and others.  Yet, we are so quick to point our finger.  He or she is not appreciating us.  They are so critical of us.  If only they would change…  We would be so happy!  Yet how many of us have ever considered where we might not be appreciating ourselves?  Or where we are being critical with ourselves?  Even though our partner may have their own issues, on a spiritual level they are simply pointing out to us how we act with ourselves and others and where we need to heal.

For example, if as a child one of our parents left the household, we may conclude that that parent didn’t love us.  We may go even further to decide that therefore we are not lovable and that we must not deserve to be loved.  This unresolved painful experience including our decision carries a certain energy.  With that energy we attract, even at 40 plus, partners into our lives who continue to prove us right and don’t love us because after all, we are not lovable.  And as such we keep re-experiencing the same pain from our child hood.  The key is to recognize that our partner isn’t doing it to us.  We are doing it to ourselves.  We carry the unresolved pain and energy about who we are and thus create our circumstances with it.  It doesn’t even matter that it’s this particular partner supposedly doing it to us.  If it wasn’t this partner it would be a different partner, because ultimately we are creating the experience.  The mirror effect doesn’t, by the way, just apply to intimate relationship.  It applies to any relationship.  It could be our mother, our child, our brother or it could be a mere stranger we only encountered once.

I had a client once come to me for a clairvoyant reading.  He wanted to know what to do about his employees.  He was clearly frustrated with them.  He complained;  they are irresponsible, they never do what I tell them to do, they are slow at their job and they don’t follow through.  I told him that they were mirroring to him his own behavior and once he changed so would his employees change.  I asked him “where are you being like that?”  His response to me was “I don’t get it.  I can’t see how I am like that.”  It is actually more common than not that we can’t see ourselves or recognize how we are being in a certain way.  I suppose for that reason we have others mirroring our behavior to us.   I suggested that we do some healing around his employees’ behavior which obviously was causing him pain.  After healing a few incidences with his employees I asked him what he might have learned from those experiences or if there was anything his soul wanted to share with him.  His reply was that he needed to place his employees in more suitable positions.  That he had been neglecting to pay attention to his employees and what job they would be best suited for.  He said that he’d been really procrastinating about this and not taking responsibility and that he really needed to follow through in his job.  True story!

So, how can we improve our relationships through spiritual healing?  Usually there is a reason why we behave or why we treat ourselves in a certain way.  Nothing that can’t be remedied usually through spiritual healing.  Spiritual healing helps us digest the past unresolved experiences, change the decisions that no longer serve us and shift our perspectives.  Once we transform and shift the energy within us, there is no unpleasent bit to be mirrored anymore.  Suddenly their behavior changes.  ….and we didn’t even have to point a finger or say a word.

So, the next time someone makes a snide remark toward you at the grocery store and you think to yourself “what a shmuck, this is soooo not about me”, know that this is sooooo about you!  …and to change them, all you have to do is change yourself!  Isn’t it fun?

Let The Love Flow – A Message For You Twin Flames Out There…

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This is an excerpt from a channeled message from the being Kyron through David Brown back in 2010.  I ran across it this morning.  It was emailed to me by a friend a while ago.  I thought I’d share it with you who are in a twin flame relationship.  As you probably know twin flame relationships can be very difficult and out of this world because a twin flame relationship brings forth and magnifies all that needs to be healed.  How do I know?  I am in one.  At the same time meeting your twin flame is a gift from God.  After all, your twin flame is literally the other half of your soul and everything you are experiencing with your twin, no matter how painful, comes from unconditional love… to help you heal.  If you have difficulty grasping this, perhaps I can recommend a book for you to read that is absolutely phenomenal and shares a point of view from the spiritual angle unlike any other you may have considered.  I would highly recommend it to anyone who is interested in healing any relationship and/or wants to understand relationships.  It’s called: “Radical Forgiveness”  by Colin Tipping.  For those of you who haven’t met your twin flame yet, perhaps you will soon…

Excerpt from the channeled message:

“You will find your twin flame here on this earth and you will create a world with your twin flame; your twin flame is that part of you that left the divine at the beginning of time, it is the opposite aspect of your energy and you will become healed enough to live in love and peace with your twin flame, with that part of you that you belong with.  This takes inner work and you are being supported by the planets, by the energies that flow between planets, by Spirit, and you are being supported through your guidance and through every way that we in Spirit world can support you.”

If you would like to read the whole channeled message, here is the link http://spiritlibrary.com/kryon-south-africa/allow-the-love-to-flow

Anyway, reading this excerpt gives me great hope in the light of pain and confusion.  Perhaps you’ll feel the same way.  If you believe you are in a twin flame relationship and would like to share your experience/s, I would love to hear them.

What’s love got to do with it?

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So you’ve fallen in love?

Well, let me guess.  That in-love feeling started to wear off and you started noticing all the  irritating things about your partner?  They have certain bad habits and they treat you at times like …. well, like you don’t deserve to be treated?  And you’ve put up with it for how long?  Why exactly, you’re not sure?  Well, except that deep down you know the next person will have issues just the same.  Afterall, nobody’s perfect.  Especially at your age, everyone has baggage, right?  The only other alternative is to remain single, but you don’t really want to be alone.   …but this is it!  You’ve had it!  You break it off.  ….only to start the cycle over again in a few months or years with someone else or the same person yet.   Or you’ve finally decided that being alone is not all that bad.   And you’ve been alone for years.   And you really miss having someone around, but you don’t want to go there again.

How many of us have been there, done that?  Or maybe you see yourself in that cycle somewhere right now?  Well, I’d like to help shed some light on this subject for you, if I may.

Most of us don’t realize that relationships aren’t just about love and companionship.  Intimate relationships are the most difficult because they teach us on the deepest and most intimate level about ourselves.  They also connect us with the deepest and most painful unresolved business we carry.  In fact, we attract just the right partner with our baggage.  Our unhealed traumas, because they are unresolved carry a certain energy.  Like energy attracts like energy and thus it is ultimately the similarity of our old baggage that brings us together like magnets.  The abuser attracts the abused.  The emotionally unavailable attracts the married person (also unavailable).  And so forth.  We then call it love or chemistry, but really it is the energy of our unhealed past.  Not to say that we can’t actually love our partner underneath all that baggage, but the only way to really tell is to take the baggage out of the equation and notice what is left.  Nonetheless, we then together with our partner engage in the perfect dance and act out our unhealed traumas that cut deep into our old wounds.  Why?  Because we are ready to heal them.  Relationships are natures way of helping us figure out what we need to heal within ourselves.

But what do we do instead?  We get angry and frustrated with our partner.  We think that if they would just change this particular behavior about them, we could be so happy together.  But your job isn’t to change your partner.  Your partner is just being a mirror to you.  Your job is to change you!  You can’t change anyone but yourself anyway.  But you still keep thinking it’s not about you?  You’re not like that?  You’re partner is the one with the problem!   Well, here is a simple way of telling whose problem it really is.  If it’s bothering you, it’s yours.  If it’s bothering them, it’s theirs.  So, if you’re the one who’s angry and frustrated, then I’m sorry to say that the problem lies within you!  What are you really angry about?

So, what do we do?  We can run and hide and try another partner, but unless we have healed our old business it will still be with us and most likely we will re-experience the same pain.  So, my advice?  My advice is, as a shaman once told me, make medicine out of it!  Simply recognize that there is something within you that needs spiritual healing and go for it.  You’d be amazed at how much you can change patterns in your relationships and attract better partners as a result.

We want our partner to love us, but ultimately no one can love us more than we love ourselves!

I’d love your comments if you care to share your thoughts and experiences.

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places..

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Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places, Dear Spirit of Mine.

I searched the world.

I searched for years to find my guy,

the one and only love of mine,

like you dear Spirit of mine,

unconditionally and always with the best for me in mind.

I looked for the guy who’d be my knight and shining armor,

my hero, my dragon slayer,

who’d protect me come rain or shine,

like you dear Spirit of mine.

I looked across the ocean miles,

I looked everywhere,

for the guy whom I could count on, trust and who would care.

I even searched in the darkest of places to find him,

the one and only love of mine.

Surely, I thought, he must be there somewhere hidden in the dark of the darkest of corners,

since I couldn’t find him in the bright of shine.

I searched everywhere for the guy who’d love me,

like you dear Spirit of mine.

It was you I trusted and I knew you’d help me find my guy.

I was growing desperate to find the guy who’d love me,

like you dear Spirit of mine.

I finally asked you for help and you agreed to help me find that guy.

You promised and I still could not see,

the love that only you had for me.

It was then that you made me look in the darkest of hearts and I finally saw,

that which there was not,

the love I’d been looking for.

Without it I was lost.

So for the longest time I wouldn’t dare see it not.

You had me again search in the darkest of hearts so that I could finally see,

see what there was not.

It was in the reflection of an empty heart that I finally saw the substance in mine.

I had to see first what there was not, in order to see,

what there was within me, my Spirit, within me.

It was then that I realized, it was you I’d been looking for all this time,

dear Spirit of mine.

You were the one who loved me,

you were my guy.

You were my knight in shining armor, my hero, my protector came rain or shine.

You were the one who loved me unconditionally all this time.

It was you I counted on and trusted, dear Spirit of mine.

Especially in my weakest of moments, you were the one who always cared

and had my best interest in mind.

I was looking for love in all the wrong hearts, when all along you were inside of mine.

You, dear Spirit, you were the true essence of me,

I so desperately needed to find.