Relax, it’s not up to us to figure out the “How”

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Recently I was reminded of a little truth that gave me big peace of mind.  It is not up to us to figure out the “how”.  Our spirit and the universe always guides us to help us achieve our soul’s aspirations.  It is up to us to listen and follow the guidance.  If we are trying to control the “how” we’re missing the boat because the more we try to control, the more we strangle life in the process and cheat ourselves out of the opportunities designed to help us achieve our soul’s desires.  I know it is easier said than done.  I personally have lost count of the number of times I have done just that – tried to control the “how”, often wondering in frustration why things weren’t working the way I thought they should.

An image comes to mind of my dad swimming in a public pool with my brother who at the time was maybe around 5 years old.  My brother not knowing how to swim and somewhat afraid of the water hung tight around my dad’s neck for the ride of his life.  As my dad tried to swim and submerged himself more into the water, my brother tightened his grip around my dad’s neck.  As my brother held on tighter and tighter it became harder and harder for my dad to swim until eventually my dad,being choked by my brother, started going under.   This in turn caused my brother to choke my dad even harder.  Luckily for the lifeguard who picked up on the seriousness of the situation and came to the rescue while everyone else thought that my dad and my brother were just playing and providing entertainment for everyone.

Well, ’tis the same with life.  How tight is your grip?

I for one have recently published my book “Meeting My Twin Flame”, a personal memoir about my spiritual awakening, a journey my spirit and the universe took me on which I couldn’t have possibly dreamed up in a million years.  I do remember setting some goals, however, prior to my journey.  I am now realizing how miniscual my goals were in comparison to what I received throughout this profound journey; my soul’s true passion and expression.

By the way my book is now available in a variety of ebook formats on www.smashwords.com at http://www.smashwords.com/b/319420 or in kindle format on www.amazon.com.

How much peace of mind would you have if you knew that your spirit and the universe would figure out the “how to” for you?  All you would have to do is listen and follow.  And what would you dare to do if you knew that your spirit and the universe had your back all the time?

What did you experience around Dec 21st 2012?

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imagesCAOK6J15Friday, Dec. 21st, 2012 was supposed to be an interesting day.  It was the last day of the Mayan calendar.  My understanding was that the planets were supposed to align in a special way.  Many of us waited in anticipation of what this shift would bring.  I, for one, fell sick the next day and continued to be sick through Christmas.  All for my highest good, however.  I knew I was personally undergoing a significant spiritual shift based on a choice I had made that Friday evening.  What I didn’t know is that we also experienced a very significant increase in vibration.  It turns out that quite a few people fell sick right around Christmas.  Much like a sudden significant increase in altitude, the vibrational increase seemed to have affected some of us physically.  I suspect that as with altitude, over time our bodies will adjust to it.  May I suggest, however, that you can ask your spirit if you are so inclined to help you rewire your body for the new vibration.  It could be done while you’re sleeping.  Your body may have an easier time of it.

It should make for an interesting 2013 in the higher vibration.  You might see more unresolved issues rising quicker to the surface for healing and clearing.   More of the lower vibration energies might come floating to the surface which means it may seem like there are more negative things happening.  No worries. Anything holding those lower vibrational energies of force, control, suppression, separation etc. is just being flushed out by the higher vibration.  The good news is you are now more than ever before supported to heal and clear out that old baggage.  If you are feeling overwhelmed or lost for what to do, look around you.  There is so much help available to you right now.  There are so many people who have wisdom in the spiritual realm and can help you heal, clear energies or help you understand through a clairvoyant reading.  I, myself, offer 30 min. complimentary first time client consultations to see if we make a good fit in working together.  Don’t be shy in getting help.  This is the time.  It’s happening whether you like it or not.  This is your time, our time!  Enjoy the ride!  Stay in the flow!  Happy New Year!

Improving Relationships as a Benefit of Spiritual Healing

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Intimate relationships can be the most wonderful and the most painful of experiences.  Love can make us feel like we are walking on cloud nine or it can make us feel like someone stuck a dagger into our hearts and ten trucks ran over us.  How do I know?  …well, I have experienced it.  I think it’s because our significant other most closely hits home with who we are and where our pain is.  Relationships mirror to us how we treat ourselves and others.  Yet, we are so quick to point our finger.  He or she is not appreciating us.  They are so critical of us.  If only they would change…  We would be so happy!  Yet how many of us have ever considered where we might not be appreciating ourselves?  Or where we are being critical with ourselves?  Even though our partner may have their own issues, on a spiritual level they are simply pointing out to us how we act with ourselves and others and where we need to heal.

For example, if as a child one of our parents left the household, we may conclude that that parent didn’t love us.  We may go even further to decide that therefore we are not lovable and that we must not deserve to be loved.  This unresolved painful experience including our decision carries a certain energy.  With that energy we attract, even at 40 plus, partners into our lives who continue to prove us right and don’t love us because after all, we are not lovable.  And as such we keep re-experiencing the same pain from our child hood.  The key is to recognize that our partner isn’t doing it to us.  We are doing it to ourselves.  We carry the unresolved pain and energy about who we are and thus create our circumstances with it.  It doesn’t even matter that it’s this particular partner supposedly doing it to us.  If it wasn’t this partner it would be a different partner, because ultimately we are creating the experience.  The mirror effect doesn’t, by the way, just apply to intimate relationship.  It applies to any relationship.  It could be our mother, our child, our brother or it could be a mere stranger we only encountered once.

I had a client once come to me for a clairvoyant reading.  He wanted to know what to do about his employees.  He was clearly frustrated with them.  He complained;  they are irresponsible, they never do what I tell them to do, they are slow at their job and they don’t follow through.  I told him that they were mirroring to him his own behavior and once he changed so would his employees change.  I asked him “where are you being like that?”  His response to me was “I don’t get it.  I can’t see how I am like that.”  It is actually more common than not that we can’t see ourselves or recognize how we are being in a certain way.  I suppose for that reason we have others mirroring our behavior to us.   I suggested that we do some healing around his employees’ behavior which obviously was causing him pain.  After healing a few incidences with his employees I asked him what he might have learned from those experiences or if there was anything his soul wanted to share with him.  His reply was that he needed to place his employees in more suitable positions.  That he had been neglecting to pay attention to his employees and what job they would be best suited for.  He said that he’d been really procrastinating about this and not taking responsibility and that he really needed to follow through in his job.  True story!

So, how can we improve our relationships through spiritual healing?  Usually there is a reason why we behave or why we treat ourselves in a certain way.  Nothing that can’t be remedied usually through spiritual healing.  Spiritual healing helps us digest the past unresolved experiences, change the decisions that no longer serve us and shift our perspectives.  Once we transform and shift the energy within us, there is no unpleasent bit to be mirrored anymore.  Suddenly their behavior changes.  ….and we didn’t even have to point a finger or say a word.

So, the next time someone makes a snide remark toward you at the grocery store and you think to yourself “what a shmuck, this is soooo not about me”, know that this is sooooo about you!  …and to change them, all you have to do is change yourself!  Isn’t it fun?

Experiencing more Joy as a Benefit of Spiritual Healing

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As I continue to heal myself, I observe myself experiencing more joy.  Particularly this year I have noticed the wild life more than ever before in previous years.  Not that the animals haven’t been around before, but I seem to be attracting more of them into my life.  At the same time I can’t help but feel such joy and delight in watching them partake in my life.  Earlier this year I had a bear cub on my porch staring at me through my living room window.  A week before I almost ran into what was probably his mama on my walk with my dog.  Believe it or not but in my 12 years in Colorado this is the first time I have encountered bears this up close.  Then there was the family of 6 or 7 raccoons who woke me a number of times at 2 o’clock in the morning scurrying around my porch.  When I finally turned on the porch light to see, I witnessed all seven of them sitting on a wood pile as if on a podium staring at me with their big eyes.  My heart skipped for joy and put a smile on my face.  The scene was well worth being woken up to at 2 o’clock in the morning.   Then there were the two mice who decided to play house with me for a day or two earlier this year walking about my livingroom completely unbothered by my presence.  I’ve never experienced mice so freely running around under my feet.  Then I couldn’t help but notice the abundance and variety of birds that I’ve come to appreciate and watch daily as they drink and take baths in the small dog dish filled with water on my porch.  It amazes me every time how they seem so comfortable with my presence and how they come to drink while I’m standing right next to the bowl.  I also mustn’t forget to mention the squirrels who jump from tree to tree, who share in the water bowl and who give my dog a run for her money every time and taunt her from the hight of the trees.  All such delight, indeed!

But the most delightful experience I had with a hummingbird recently.  I was watering my cucumber patch when suddenly a hummingbird flew into the spray of my hose and hovered for a few seconds.  Then he flew to a nearby fence where he rested and shook himself off.  Then once again he flew into the wide spray of my hose and hovered yet again for a few seconds under the water.  I realized the little bugger was taking a shower.  So when he sat down on the nearby fence again and shook himself off I slightly lifted the hose to shower him some more.  He didn’t quite like that at first and took off, but then came right back.  This time I lifted my hose ever so slightly and sprayed the little hummingbird again.  He allowed it this time and started shaking his wings and enjoying the spray of water showering him.  I can’t even begin to describe the joy I felt.  I don’t recall ever having experienced such delight in an interaction with such tiny critter.  It’s only ironic that the hummingbird spiritually represents JOY.

On the other side of the coin I have known people who have had difficulty experiencing any joy at all in the face of even the most elaborate events.  So, how is it that some of us are able to experience such great joy while others can’t seem to experience any?  And how does this relate to spiritual healing?

It seems that we experience joy more readily when we operate in the higher vibrations.  Living in the lower vibrations we seem to experience far less of it.  The predominant contribution to us living in the lower vibrational energies are our past unresolved traumas.  They seem to weigh us down to the point of lowering us vibrationally.  The more unresolved traumas, the heavier our load, the lower we seem to sink until it becomes almost impossible to manage life, much less experience any joy.  Just look at the people around you who you know that have experienced multiple losses or accidents in a short period of time or who have lived a life of continuous drama.  Drama incidentally is just an expression of our unresolved traumas.  Each unresolved trauma equates to carrying a sack of potatoes weighing us down.  Additionally, a part of our soul is wrapped up in the unresolved experience, leaving us with less creative energy to manage life.  Thus with each added trauma there is literally less of us spiritually in addition to the accumulating weight we must carry.

Spiritual healing allows us to digest the unresolved traumas releasing our creative energy back to us and unburdening us from the extra weight.  Often people experience feeling lighter after a healing,  not realizing that they are also rising vibrationally.  Life just suddenly becomes easier, better and more fun.

Reducing Stress as a Benefit of Spiritual Healing

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It is my own personal experience that the more I heal the more at peace I feel.  Similar situations that would have stressed me out in the past, do not faze me today.

So, where does stress come from?  Stress comes from our own anticipation of pain and discomfort given certain circumstances.  But how do we know that we might experience pain and discomfort in certain situations unless we have indeed experienced it?  Thus my point; we experience stress as a result of previous traumas.  A current situation only serves to remind us of the past pain.  Pain is counter survival.  Thus our survival mechanism warns us of the possibility of pain by inducing stress in our bodies whenever we find our selves in similar situations where we have experienced pain before – simply to get us to leave the situation.

But doesn’t everyone experience stress in certain situations, you may ask?  Well, no.  It’s like saying all skiers experience fear of skiing.  The truth is that only the ones who have gotten hurt on a ski slope will experience fear of skiing.  For that same reason not everyone experiences fear of flying or gets stressed when on an airplane.  Only the ones who have crashed before.  Mind you the crash could also be a past life experience.  It is for this same reason we may experience stress around certain circumstances with love, finances, work, kids and so forth.

So, how do we circumvent this survival mechanism that’s inducing stress with us?  Simple.  We heal the past trauma.  By doing so we neutralize or de-activate the emotions or energy in the trauma.  No matter how similar the circumstances, we no longer will have that particular trauma act on us (or re-experience the emotions in it) because it is no longer active even though we still have memory of it.

So, you are feeling stressed?  Observe the circumstances around which you get stressed.  What might be the past trauma?  If you can’t figure it out, allow a spiritual healer to help you heal it.  It is wonderful to know that you can!  It is even more wonderful to experience peace and calm within yourself!

So, what is Spiritual Healing anyway?

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When we experience pain, whether physical, emotional or mental, sometimes it is so intense that we can’t deal with it in the moment and we tend to “shove” it, set it aside.  In other words, we don’t fully digest the experience.  When this happens it becomes a piece of unfinished business attached to our soul.  Our soul wants to learn from our experiences; good, bad or ugly.  However, it cannot learn from those experiences which we haven’t digested.  It’s kind of like our bodies cannot get the nutrients from an undigested piece of brocoli.  The energy in the unhealed experience is live and continues to affect us.  By energy is meant all the emotions in the original experience.  Similar circumstances can trigger these emotions or key us into the experience so that we emotionally re-live it.  More often than not we don’t realize that that’s what’s happening.  We think we are simply having a reaction to our current circumstances.  Although the current circumstances may have triggered it, we are really re-experiencing the unhealed past.  Once we heal the experience, we don’t react to the current.  We are able to act rather than re-act because we are much calmer and centered.

Such unhealed past experiences are where most fear, anxiety, stress, depression and recurring pain come from.  Your soul will keep creating circumstances and drawing to you just the right people to keep reminding you of what needs healing – simply because your soul wants to learn from your experience.  Spiritual healing allows for the past experience to be properly digested and the pain to be transformed to wisdom.  Aside from your soul’s learning you actually get to experience relief from all those unpleasant emotions as well as recurring similar circumstances or recurring physical pain.  A lot of your unhealed experiences may reside in past lives you are completely unaware of.

Even though our natural tendency is to not want to re-visit painful areas of our lives, it really behooves us to re-visit for the purpose of healing.  We never re-experience the full intensity of the original experience, anyway.  Possibly only 10% or so.  We will, however, continue to re-live the past over an over if we don’t heal it, as our soul will not allow us to ignore it.  What we resist persists.  Only when we heal, can we finally let go.  Why keep holding onto the pain?  By not wanting to face our pain we only keep creating more of it.

Let The Love Flow – A Message For You Twin Flames Out There…

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This is an excerpt from a channeled message from the being Kyron through David Brown back in 2010.  I ran across it this morning.  It was emailed to me by a friend a while ago.  I thought I’d share it with you who are in a twin flame relationship.  As you probably know twin flame relationships can be very difficult and out of this world because a twin flame relationship brings forth and magnifies all that needs to be healed.  How do I know?  I am in one.  At the same time meeting your twin flame is a gift from God.  After all, your twin flame is literally the other half of your soul and everything you are experiencing with your twin, no matter how painful, comes from unconditional love… to help you heal.  If you have difficulty grasping this, perhaps I can recommend a book for you to read that is absolutely phenomenal and shares a point of view from the spiritual angle unlike any other you may have considered.  I would highly recommend it to anyone who is interested in healing any relationship and/or wants to understand relationships.  It’s called: “Radical Forgiveness”  by Colin Tipping.  For those of you who haven’t met your twin flame yet, perhaps you will soon…

Excerpt from the channeled message:

“You will find your twin flame here on this earth and you will create a world with your twin flame; your twin flame is that part of you that left the divine at the beginning of time, it is the opposite aspect of your energy and you will become healed enough to live in love and peace with your twin flame, with that part of you that you belong with.  This takes inner work and you are being supported by the planets, by the energies that flow between planets, by Spirit, and you are being supported through your guidance and through every way that we in Spirit world can support you.”

If you would like to read the whole channeled message, here is the link http://spiritlibrary.com/kryon-south-africa/allow-the-love-to-flow

Anyway, reading this excerpt gives me great hope in the light of pain and confusion.  Perhaps you’ll feel the same way.  If you believe you are in a twin flame relationship and would like to share your experience/s, I would love to hear them.

Are you an optimist, a pessimist or a realist?

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Well it is said that if you see the glass as half full you are considered an optimist. If you see it as half empty you are a pessimist. And if you worry that if you stick around long enough you’ll end up having to wash the glass, you are a realist.
Interesting how we can look at the same thing and see something different. That’s called perspective. That’s why we can experience life differently by simply altering our perspective.

Whom Does Forgiveness Ultimately Benefit?

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Forgiveness is an interesting subject.  I use the energy of forgiveness in my healing practices all the time …because it heals.  When we forgive we also let go of our feelings of anger, pain, resentment and hostility.  It actually takes a lot of energy to hold on to and maintain negative emotions such as anger.  Withholding forgiveness is like drinking venom attempting to poison our enemy.  And yet, some of us can’t or won’t forgive.  Why is the act of forgiveness so difficult?

Is it because we think that by forgiving we release the other person from their responsibility of their actions and thus they will not have to pay for what they did?  Or is it because we so desperately try to feel powerful thinking that by withholding our forgiveness we can make the other suffer?

But, why do we want to take on the responsibility of making someone else pay?  In our universe, every action has its price regardless.  We all must pay our dues.  We all have our lessons to learn.  And ultimately we all stand before our own personal judge.  Do we really have the power to make the other suffer?   We may go through the motions and at best hope that our actions cause the other person pain.  But what the other person actually chooses to feels is up to them.  We don’t have control over someone else’s feelings.  Just like no one can make us forgive when we don’t want to.  It’s an internal job.  We only have as much power over someone else as they allow us to have.  By the same token, someone else has only as much power over us as we allow them.

So, how do we get feeling so powerless?  Well, when we blame someone else, when we hold another person responsible for our circumstances, we automatically render ourselves powerless.  By giving away our personal responsibility we also give away our power.  On the other hand, when we recognize our part in the creation of our reality and we assume personal responsibility and truly own our creation, whether painful or wonderful, only then do we also own our power.

Why do we try so hard to affect change where we cannot affect it?  Life only becomes hard when we set ourselves up with impossibilities by taking on someone else’s responsibility and giving away our own.  Ultimately the only change we can affect is within ourselves.

But why is it our responsibility when someone else hurts us, you may ask?  I know this may be difficult for some to accept, but every event, every person in our lives is there because we have drawn them there.  Maybe it was karma balancing itself out from another lifetime.  Maybe we wanted to learn something and had a soul contract with the other person to help teach us.  Or maybe we are repeating history because our soul wants us to finally heal our past.  Whatever the reason, we created our circumstances.  Only when we accept what is truly ours, do we fully stand in our power.  And it is then when forgiveness becomes easy because there is no need to hold a grudge against anyone else.  In fact, it’s never been about anyone else.  It’s always been about ourselves.  And all there is left is the pain we need to heal and the wisdom it holds for us.  …and forgiveness will help us do that.